Today I want to deep dive for understanding each other issue.
Are we good friends, lovers or family members?
Some people face with their fears very deeply and this could be your best friend, your girlfriend or sister.
Generally we judge them as “you changed”. We say “You are not the person as I always know”.
It is the worst way to communicate. Because first we should try to understand with in her/his shoes. What was the reasons for her/him to act like that or do we know each other well?
To be close with someone seems so easy but to communicating with touching souls is very difficult. Even though he/she is your best friend for 15 years, you can not know his/her deepest fairs or passions. And I think maybe we should not to know also.
Everyone has an inner world and we are the owner of our own worlds. So sometimes there can be major earthquakes that we should care about.
If we are close to beloved ones maybe we only let them understand whatever you struggle just know that I believe you and I will be your side when you need me.
Everyone has a dark side. Sometimes we can mess up while we are not done with our inner side and show our darkest side. With a moment we can be labelled as the worst person in the world. But if we try to understand the other side maybe all communication problems will be solved.
I learned that in an African tribe, when someone does something wrong, they take the person to the center of the village there the tribe surrounds him and for 2 days say all the good he has done. The tribe believes each person is good but sometimes people make mistakes, which are really a cry for help. They unite to reconnect him with his good nature.
This story means a lot for me. I believe that I am a transition period to the best version of me. It will take a while to reach but on this way I will try to do my best. But I learned my first lesson and I won’t judge somebody because of his/her attitude. We really should be so kind to other people and help them to achieve this transition smoothly.
*(Heading from Adultery, Paulo Coelho)